Lifestyle Changes

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Hello Ladies! I am relatively newly diagnosed and I am having a hard time getting my husband to understand my new "lifestyle" and eating patterns. He and I used to eat a lot of the same foods (not healthy) and go to (not so healthy) restaurants. Now, I am ready to eat healthy so I can live for a long time, but he doesn't want to "change something that's not broken" for him. Does anybody have any suggestions or personal experiences they can share...



Susan
Posted about 11 years ago
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Hi Susan, this probably is not what you were looking for, but can I pray for you? My parents are so supportive of my lifestyle change and I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you not to have that kind of support. Only God can change a heart, and I know that's what it would take. Meanwhile, can I pray that you would have strength and wisdom in handling this situation?
Posted about 11 years ago
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I'm having a lifestyle issue today. I get so tired of having to think, "Is it time to eat? Do I need a snack? I this enough carbs or too many carb? Has it been 2 hours since I ate? Oh, I forgot to eat. I'm starving, but it's not time to eat. Is my sugar too low?" I teach and I have to watch the clock to make sure I get my snack in and pull something out in front of the kids to eat. They understand, but sometimes it bugs ME. Today it is bugging me.
Posted about 11 years ago
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Personal experience speaking. Since I am the one with the health problem, I encouraged my husband to also eat healthy. We can't buy one thing for each of us for meals, so when we eat out, we eat healthy. If he brings me chips or sweets, I REPEAT, that I choose to not eat those things and thank him. Watch out for you and let him follow. Lead and he will follow. If not, then at least you are assured that you are taking care of YOU! Best of luck. It's not easy, but look out for you. I initially sensed some resistance from my husband too. I chalked it up to insecurities and/or fear on his part.
Posted about 11 years ago
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I have days like that. Right now my problem is not eating enough. I have the most trouble with snacks. if I am not hungry I don't think about it. I only have a snack in the evening so my blood sugar won't drop too low over night. Don't think of eating as a chore. I think of food as medicine. Lately I consider food as something I have to eat to maintain my blood sugars. I know it can be difficult when the people around you don't understand. You have to be diligent for yourself.
Posted about 11 years ago
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Unfortunately if he chooses to not change his habits all you can do is change yours. You can talk to him about how you want to be healthier to avoid complications and tell him what they are. You have to be strong and find support elsewhere (family, friend, fellow diabetic). As he sees you taking better care of yourself he may start to follow suit. Tell him you are making such and such for dinner and if that is not what he wants then he has to make his own meal. Don't nag about him changing, it won't get anywhere since from his viewpoint he is fine. You can start reading labels aloud- "I didn't realize this had so much fat/cholesterol/calories".

I was diagnosed 4 years ago and this year my hubby has decided that he will join me in losing weight and getting in better shape so we can do more things together. So far it is working great.
Posted about 11 years ago
Susan, thank you so much for the gratitude check!B) I have been whining to myself about what I "do not" have in my relationship with my boyfriend, when I should have been grateful for his support.

I will pray for you, too, because from both my experience with Type 2 and as a recovering alcoholic, I know how important support is when you are living with a disease.:blush: I have to echo most of the advice of other posters, too.

Get your husband to help you count your carbohydrates in a meal. Ask him to read "that darned small print" on a food label once in a while. Show him how easy it is to look up information online. I even found things on a fast-food menu that fit easily into my meal plan, and not just the salads!:woohoo:

Above all, stand up for yourself and your health. :kiss: If you can, take him to your next nutritionist appointment, or set up an appointment for him with your CDE.
Posted about 11 years ago